• Don’t tell me what to do.
  • Don’t tell me lies that I know aren’t true (gaslight me). I didn’t run a car off the road into someone’s yard where he hit a pole.
  • Don’t tell people im forgetful or confused. I’m not!
  • Don’t make me question my own judgment when I know it’s sound and right.
  • Don’t tell me things about my profession you know nothing about!
  • Don’t take money out of my account without asking causing me to be short on my bills.
  • Don’t make up stories about me to my family and yours making me look shady.
  • Don’t judge me by my past. You’ve made worse mistakes than me but you won’t admit yours. It’s always somebody else’s fault. You didnt know me then or all the things I had to overcome!
  • Dont try to stir up trouble with my family to isolate me!
  • Do what I like once in awhile!
  • Dont ask me all the time what I’m doing when im on my phone!
  • Don’t go through my personal belongings!
  • Don’t leave the apartment when your ex-girlfriend calls. I allow you to talk to her but it’s disrespectful to me when you talk to her in private. You’ve already locked your phone. You say its so your phone doesn’t do weird things in your pocket but you keep your hand over it when you unlock it and I’m around. Hmmmmmm
  • Do the dishes once in awhile. I do all the cooking.
  • When I cook, don’t criticize!
  • Keep your shitty thoughts to yourself. You piss me off all the time but I keep my comments to myself.
  • When I’m on the phone, quit telling me what to say!
  • Stop calling me a liar! I don’t lie but you do all the time to get your way and as to why you have to talk to your ex-girlfriend alone.
  • You’ve only met my family a few times so stop making making assumptions and negative comments about them. Especially my mother!
  • Stop makung comments about my anatomy such as I have ugly toenails.
  • Stop comparung me to past girlfriends!
  • Stop calling it “whining” when i say something hurts or that I’m broke. I had plenty of money until I met you!
  • Don’t tell me we dont have the money to do something yet you always find money to gamble!
  • Don’t get loud with me over nothing!
  • Don’t tell me what to do with my belongings. I dont keep piles of pictures of naked women in storage boxes taking up space. Mine is sentimental.
  • Stop telling me to go to the gym. If you don’t like heavy women, don’t date them then try to bully them into getting thin. It Never works!
  • Don’t pick my clothes out for me. I know what I feel comfortable wearing!
  • Don’t make comments about my life before “us”. You only know what I’ve shared with you not the whys or wherefores. Don’t speculate. There’s reasons for everything! Love and light friends.

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I am a published author on dementia and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. This site is designed to help you identify narcissists and their trademarks and the pitfalls to avoid.

One thought on “JUST DON’T”

  1. Brenda, this is a perfectly lovely list. Well, I say lovely only because it is so true to life with a narcissist. I relate to everything on your list, and I hope putting this in writing was validating to you and to others who read your post. I love the title of your blog, and narcissists are like pesky garden weeds. They require constant picking to keep them out.


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