I have a background in psychology but I am not a doctor. However, I’ve researched it enough to know that because it’s not a disease it’s not curable. It is categorized as a personality disorder. It is marked with arrogance, cockiness, and inability to handle criticism. He or she has a sense of entitlement, a history of troubled relationships, fragile self esteem, and exaggerated achievements and talents.
They take advantage of others, they scheme, and want the best of everything like champagne on a beer budget. He or she cannot regulate their emotions and behaviors. They are usually depressed and moody and don’t take their actions personally. They seek fuel, nothing else. They take credit and give blame. They are energy sucking vampires.
My second husband husband had narcissistic traits and was diagnosed as a narc but he also was empathetic and had a good heart. But he said things that cut my soul in half. Such as “I don’t care if it’s with black coffee and cigarettes but if you don’t lose weight, you’ll come home one day and I’ll be gone!”
One night we were watching a biography on Jayne Mansfield and he said: “I’d sure have liked to fuck her! She looked that good cause I bet she didn’t eat dumplin’ soup!” We had been out for lunch and I had eaten that. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to my girls at times and once spit in my 17 year old’s face. But she’s an empath like me and took care of him his last few months.
Bullying, projection, lying, entitlement and at least one addiction seem to be on the narcs menu. I haven’t had very many happy days in my adult life because of the partners I seem to pick. I’m trying to be more discerning but unless you’ve been a victim of narcissistic abuse, you can never explain it or make someone understand. Love and light.
Eek! There's A Narcissist In My Garden 