I was at the casino the other night when I overheard a conversation between a couple. The male had left the female in the bar to walk around and she had gone to the bathroom. When she came back his chair was taken. He was furious and bawled her out saying he was gonna hang out with the boys for 3-4 hours. He said nothing about leaving the premises. She looked for him for 2 hours but couldn’t find him. She had called and texted him and finally he told her he was in another town shooting pool.
He left her there alone for 4 hours. I would have left but maybe she didn’t have the money. He came back as if nothing happened and I knew the look on her face all too well. The look said “well at least you came back for me.” She might not be so lucky the next time. Sometimes the narc ghosts out on the fuel source and doesn’t come back back for days, weeks, months, or sometimes even years as if nothing happened. She danced with him in the bar and I knew exactly what she was doing. She was sniffing for pussy breath. You see, all of we empaths know the tricks. They left holding hands and I just wanted to shake her and tell her to wake up. But I didn’t want to get arrested.
If you have never been in ones clutches and think you might be…run! Fast and hard and have no more contact with them. Educate yourself about their wiles and tricks. Know the terms love bombing, triangulation, gaslighting, discarding, flying monkeys, and stone walling. Tell someone you trust what’s going on. Most narcs are just that and get their food from their victims reactions. However, some are psychopaths and have murdered or made his or her victims lives so miserable that the fuel source committed suicide. Don’t become a statistic. Find a reputable therapist and a friend you can trust.
One of my worst fears is that my narc and I would go somewhere together and he would go to get the car and leave me there. He always wants me to leave my phone in the car but I’m helpless without it and refuse to. Because with a narc what’s theirs is theirs and what’s yours is also theirs, I don’t have money for cable or internet. “Because I said…” is always the reason for everything. If you are a people watcher like me, you will see narcissistic or narcissistic like behavior everywhere. Not everyone who is an asshole is a narcissist but all narcissists are assholes. Love and light.